February is Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month, a great time to remind your favorite teens -- both boys and girls -- about the types of abuse and the motto "Behind closed doors, love shouldn't hurt."
This list comes from The Center for Women and Families, which daily helps victims of domestic abuse and sexual assault. And although these suggestions are for teens, they really do apply to people of all ages.
Types of abuse
• Calling you names
• Telling you what to wear or what to do
• Excessive calling, texting or e-mailing
• Always demanding to know who you're with and where you are
• Going through your things without your permission
• Acting extremely jealous
• Not letting you hang out with friends and family
• Blaming you for everything
• Falsely accusing you of cheating
• Shaking or grabbing
• Pulling hair
• Slapping, punching, kicking, pushing, pinching, etc.
• Using objects or weapons to hurt you
• Unwanted touching or kissing
Signs of abuse:
• Your partner makes you choose between them and your family and friends
• Your partner is constantly checking up on you
• Your partner checks your computer or cell phone to see who you have been talking to
• You feel like you are walking on egg shells, never knowing what kind of mood your partner is in
• Your partner tells you what to wear or requests that you dress a certain way
• Your partner pressures you into using drugs or alcohol
• Your partner threatens to harm themselves if you ever broke off the relationship
• Your partner calls you names or tells you no one else will ever love you
For more information, visit www.cwfefc.org. If anything on the preceding list describes your relationship, call The Center's hotlines: domestic abuse, (203) 384-9559 or sexual assault, (888) 999-5545.